Talking About Love Helps To Make Decisions

If you are starting a love relationship, or you feel that the one you already have is failing, sit down and talk with the other person. In just one conversation you will be able to see if the things that each one wants are the same, or similar, or have nothing to do with it. This is the time to ask yourself: does this relationship have a future? Do we have the same desire? Do we want the same thing? Do we have a similar model of couple, or at least a compatible one? In this crucial conversation, explain to your partner:

• What is love for you.
• What kind of relationship would you like to have.
• What kind of bond do you want to build at this point in your life?
• What do you think you need to be happy in a relationship?
• What expectations do you have.
• What would you like.
• What do you expect from a reciprocated love.

Answering these questions will allow you to make important decisions regarding the future of your relationship.

Also talk about your red lines (everything that you are not willing to negotiate), your romantic dreams and your desires. And listen to the other person so that they express themselves with the same freedom as you and tell you what they want, what they want and what they need.

Assess if there are conditions to love you well

There are many relationships that die from the accumulated resentment generated by the lack of love and care. When there is not the minimum that is necessary to enjoy love, reproaches, blackmails, threats and dramatic scenes begin …

Therefore, after the conversation, it is convenient to evaluate if there are conditions for the relationship to evolve in a healthy way, always bearing in mind that love can neither be demanded nor begged:

• If there are conditions to love each other well, we can try with all the illusion in the world.
• If there are not, accepting it from the first moment can save us a lot of bad times.
• If they do not love us as much as we would like, it is better to see it clearly from the beginning and take it into account when taking the step and starting a love story. And if we don’t see it from the beginning, we can still end that love story once we become aware that we are not reciprocated.
• If they are not going to take care of us as we expect, we should not stay there to wait to see if the romantic miracle occurs and they begin to really love us.
• If they don’t intend to give us all the love we need, then we shouldn’t be there. If the love we give does not come back multiplied, if we cannot share the love we feel and receive it to the same extent that we give it, then it is because there is no love in the other person.

Evaluate if their words are sincere and make decisions

Some men try to pretend they are in love and try to confuse their partner with pretty speeches to make you believe that they love you. If you need to know if the other person really loves you, pay attention not only to their words but also to the care they give you. If he only takes care of you sometimes but not other days, then he does not love you. If sometimes he treats you well and other times not, then he does not love you.

When we do not receive love, when they do not know how to take care of us, we do not have to demand it: we simply have to leave the relationship. No drama. It is a matter of commitment to ourselves: when we commit to ourselves we take care of ourselves, and taking care of ourselves means not staying in relationships in which we do not feel loved or cared for.

It is a very simple equation: where there is no love, it is better not to be.

If we are not happy, we cannot hold the other person responsible. We are the ones who are staying in a relationship in which we are not happy, the ones who deceive ourselves by remaining in that relationship.